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Guest Blogger – Robert Kennedy III – 6 Ways to get past those pesky “feelings”

Please welcome our guest blogger – Robert Kennedy III – Founder of RK3 (http://www.robertkennedy3.com) – coaching, training, success coach and technology lover! Robert Kennedy

To read more about him, visit his “About Us”: http://www.robertkennedy3.com/about/

6 Ways to get past those pesky “feelings”

“I didn’t workout today because I didn’t FEEL like it.”

“Oh my goodness, I FEEL so tired.  I think I’ll just stay in bed.”

“I won’t network today.  I don’t FEEL like talking to anyone.”

Those pesky feelings.  There are many situations in which they allow us to experience pleasure but we sure can run into some trouble if we allow them to rule our lives.  If I were to live by my feelings only, there would be some days that my kids just didn’t get to school.  If I were to live by just feelings, many times, I might just stay inside and not head out into the great, expanse called our world.  And we always have the option to do that.  But, is it productive?  Is it effective? Does it get us closer to our plans and our goals?

Now, when I talk about feelings, I am not talking about the physical feelings.  Your body really does get tired.  It really does get sick.  It really does get broken sometimes and there is nothing that you can do.  What I am talking about is the mindset.  The feeling of ‘I don’t want to do this right now’ or ‘I’m just not in the mood to do this today.’  Many people allow feeling like this to determine how their days proceed.

We all have those ‘feelings’ from time to time but there are ways of dealing with our ‘feelings’ in order to remain productive.  Here are some of the things I do.

1. Do something immediately
When you don’t feel like completing a project or getting up to do your exercise routine, do something immediately. Make up your mind that you are going to do something towards that project immediately and that immediately combats the feeling. Feelings tend to be progressive. By that I mean that the longer you allow them to ‘feel’, the more powerful they become. If you act immediately against that feeling, you will see that it begins to subside. As a bonus, you will actually be getting something done and moving towards your goal.

2. Write it down
Have you ever seen something that you wrote a few weeks later and thought, “Oh my goodness, who wrote that?” Pens have a funny way of making us see our own fears and sometimes even our silly thoughts. When you don’t feel like doing something. Simply begin to write down what it is that you dont feel like doing, why you don’t feel like doing it. Then, return to suggestion number 1.

3. Speak to someone
“Hey Tina, what’s up? Yeah, I’m just calling you because right now I am committed to getting this project done but I don’t feel like it. I just need to get it out of my head and hear someone tell me to get off my butt and get it done. Can you tell me to get off my butt and get it done?” GET OFF YOUR BUTT AND GET IT DONE – “Thanks Tina”

4. Agree with yourself that you will do it for a certain amount of time.
One powerful way to act and move forward is to simply create agreements. YOur agreement with yourself can be that you will work on this thing for 10 minutes even though you dont feel like it. Then after that 10 minutes, you get to go to sleep. That’s one way that I was able to get my book finished even when I didn’t feel like writing.

5. Create a reward immediately
If you don’t feel like doing it, begin thinking immediately about what might make you feel like doing it or what would motivate you to complete it. Make it a really great reward. Think about the biggest ice cream sundae you can. Then, determine what you can do to get your ice cream sundae. Then do something to get your ice cream sundae.

6. Make a game or a competition
This might only work for me because I’m a competitive person. But, we all like games in one way or another. What can you do to create a game out of it? How many points can you give yourself for your activities that day? What if you got 50 points for getting out of bed on time? What if you got 100 points just for getting started on your activities? Get enough points and then you can do number 5.

Many times, ‘feelings’ are really interpreted as fear. And fear rarely moves you closer to your goal. So, it’s time to get past those ‘feelings’. You can DO it!


Can you control it?

Today I had a “series of unfortunate events.”

First, the bank messed up something in my account at the perfectly wrong time.

Second, in an effort to re-arrange the refrigerator for some leftover spaghetti sauce, I somehow triggered the fall of a huge plastic bottle of Welches grape juice…which ended up all over the refrigerator insides, the floor and part of the area carpet.

Third, some clothing alterations weren’t quite making me look like I thought I should.

How was I feeling? OUT OF CONTROL.

But, I remembered that I’m the “nudger” that is always telling a friend to “take action on what you can control and don’t worry about the rest…for now.”

So, I took my own advice and got to work on some errands, helped a friend pack boxes and ….cleaned up the grape juice one compartment at a time. (You were worried about that, weren’t you?)

And somehow tonight ….all is ok.

Even though the bank is still an issue, and I haven’t lost 30 pounds to look good in my new clothing, taking action gave me some ideas. I thought of some possible solutions that I hadn’t considered before my semi-annoying day.

Taking action on what I could control has now inspired me to take control of the situations I felt out of control on earlier today.

Can you control everything that is going on in your life? Probably not.

Take a small break from worrying and take action on something you can control. Perhaps a little idea will come to your mind you never considered. And, if it does…take action!


Passion – how do you know you have it?

“Passion” is a big buzz word right now. “Follow your passion” and “find your life purpose” are phrases we hear all over the Internet.

So, have you found yours? What does it feel like?

This photographer – David Jay – has found his and talks about it in this brief little video.


YouTube Channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/davidjay


David makes a few really good points. Here’s what we pulled from his thoughts:

  • You know you are passionate when you can stay up all night working on something and you aren’t tired.
  • Spend time figuring out what you don’t like to do – he didn’t like preparing and so he’s hired an assistant to help take on that task so he can focus on what he loves.
  • Share your insights with others – as you learn about what does and doesn’t work for you – share it! Other people are trying to pursue passions too and love to hear insights from those walking ahead of them.

? – How do you keep your passion alive OR have you not found it yet?


Analysis Paralysis and Shipping!

Today Heidi, one of our villagers, made a comment on the post we created about leveraging YouTube.

Here’s what she wrote:

“I was challenged by my business coach to do 21 videos in 21 days. It’s been an interesting journey as I have gotten over some of my hang ups about being on camera. Now I focus on the content and not how I look! The important thing is to ship it!”

Some of the marketing gurus (especially Seth Godin, Tom Peters, and Gary Vaynerchuk) talk about the importance of “shipping” your product/service as soon as possible. In other words, getting it out the door even if it isn’t perfect.

Apple perfected the art of shipping long ago. Over time, they were able to ship even when the customer base knew the product wasn’t perfect. However, the design was basically great and the fans knew that Apple would constantly (and relentlessly) improve their product each and every time. The early adopters want the first, not the  perfect.

In the world of design (online and offline), the term “analysis paralysis” is often used for those situations where the team becomes so obsessed with the idea that they beat it to death by designing, re-designing and perfecting for so long that they forget the ultimate goal – ship the product for people to buy, use, sell, love, cherish!

It is a fine balance between delivering quality and delivering the product on time. It’s the typical balance between time, money, and quality. Pick two. (-:

As all the gurus know, and what Heidi’s coach understands, is that it is time to get your idea/product/service out to the world. 

  • Fine tune it as you go.
  • Learn from your mistakes. 
  • Listen to your audience.
  • Apply feedback. 

Sooner or later, your product will add the value you hoped and may just be better or different than you originally imagined.

P.S. The idea for Nudge Village was an idea over a year ago and the Chief Nudger didn’t sit down to do anything with the idea until Thanksgiving 2010. Now it is a site that will hopefully grow and help a few people along the way.